What Will I Learn?
How the psychology of human behaviour leads us to misinterpretations, biases and assumptions, which stoke the fires of conflict.
How unconsciously we fall into roles that lead us to become unhelpful – even antagonistic – when dealing with others.
A process that will help you structure and better manage a difficult conversation.
How to deal with bullies and those of the Dark Triad. You'll also learn how to manage passive aggressive behaviour.
- We all come across individuals we find challenging and difficult. We’ve all found ourselves in conflict situations that didn’t go well – that we wish we’d handled differently.
- And while difficult people and conflict are unavoidable – how you respond is within your control.
- This training course aims to lessen your stress, help you regain control and feel confident that you can handle difficult conversations, difficult people and conflict situations at work.
In this video, we talk about the importance of flexibility and attitude when dealing with difficult people and conflict. We discuss why you must become aware of, and overcome, your unconscious biases, habits and roles – why you must switch from autopilot to manual drive, if you’re to develop the skills to deal with difficult people and situations.
Having the right attitude and beliefs about ourselves, and others, is at the heart of good relationship management. In this video lesson, we talk about why it’s wrong to be right, personal responsibility and blame.
This video lesson looks at projection. Understanding and spotting projections is crucial if you’re to better understand why you see certain people as ‘difficult’, and how it can give away your power to better deal with other people and conflict situations. This online video looks at how to spot your own projections, and how to deal with others projecting on to you.
When we meet someone for the first time, within an instant (research suggests 7 seconds as the magic timeframe) we analyse someone from their appearance alone and then attribute underlying motives, social status, personality traits, even psychological states to that person. This video workshop helps you explore our various unconscious biases.
In this video class we explore how your view of yourself, in relationship to others, affects the outcomes you seek when dealing with difficult people. We look at how we create unhelpful lose-win, rather than win-win, attitudes and outcomes.
In this online training class, we look into how to deal with bullies. We also show you how to spot those of the Dark Triad – those individuals who stand outside of the normal bell curve of normal behaviour, and make your standard insecure, cowardly bully look kind: psychopaths, narcissists and Machiavels. We’ll show you how to deal with each of these three characters in turn.
In this video class, we look at two classic models used in psychotherapy. These models will help you understand how you might be unintentionally playing out certain roles, and in doing so encouraging others to treat you in ways that exacerbate conflict and relationship issues. When you become aware of the roles you’re playing then you can choose to step out of them by taking different attitudes and behaviours.
People find it hard to get what they want from a certain person because they don’t have a clear outcome in mind – they focus on the problem and not the solution. In this online video class we look at how we might inadvertently create negative outcomes, and how to design positive outcomes.
Trust is crucial if we’re to deal with difficult people and resolve conflicts. And trust is only created when we feel heard and validated. So to build trust requires us to really understand where the other person is coming from – their agenda and the values behind their agenda. To do this we need to employ one of the most powerful and yet underrated of skills — the ability to truly listen. “But I’m a great listener”, a lot of people say! These people invariably half-listen – rarely applying Level 5 listening. To show you the 5 levels of listening, this video lesson contains a listening skills demonstration — a dialogue between the tutor and a colleague.
In this video lesson we talk through a 9-step process, including setting outcomes, separating the person from the issue, how to ‘bracket’ out your assumptions, and more. It includes advice and tips on what phrases and language to use – and what to avoid – when dealing with difficult conversations, difficult people and conflict.
Cognitive psychologist Antonio Damasio’s research suggests that 95% of our decisions are made based on feelings, not logic. This video class looks at how to allow others to express their emotions – what words and phrases to use, and which to avoid. It also gives advice and tips on managing people in conflict situations when things get heated.
In this online class, we discuss when people should stand and argue, and when and why it’s best to walk away.