How to Build Unbreakable Confidence

Many people don’t differentiate between self confidence for self esteem, so they don’t invest time in building healthy self esteem. This course is about building self esteem, which comes from an internal state and mindset. Only once this is in place will you start to gain self confidence is areas like public speaking. It’s a combination of developing the right mindset, then practicing skills and putting these into action – getting the right mindset, skill set, and action set.

Low self esteem manifests itself in one of four ways: attacking yourself; withdrawing; avoidance through over-working, over-giving, over-striving; and attacking others through blaming others, lashing out and steaming rolling others.

This video looks at how a gap between the expectation of who we are – and who we think we should be – contributes to low self-esteem. It explores Carl Rogers’ ‘conditions of worth’ and conditional positive regard.

Key incidents and messages from our childhood become absorbed into a sense of who we are, impacting our self esteem and confidence. This exercise helps you reassess the negative beliefs that you’ve held on to from your past, and build new, more realistic beliefs to improve your self esteem.

Many of my clients struggle with self-motivation, inflexible behaviour and low self esteem because they don’t have a clear picture of their core values. They live to please the “I should” self, so lose sight of their values. This video explains how values are different to needs, and how living through intrinsic values provides you with a stronger sense of self and meaning, greater energy, focus, and self esteem.

This video uses a 5-step values’ clarification tool to help you identify your intrinsic values, which are key to you gaining more self esteem and confidence. It also shows how to avoid mistaking needs for values, a common error when identifying our values.

Your strengths – when combined with your values – provide you with an excellent insight of what you bring to the world that’s positive and unique. This video shows you the benefits to spending more time playing to your strengths, rather than continually improving ‘areas of development’. It shows you how to identify strengths and how to use them more to improve self esteem and confidence.

We all have an inner critic whose dialogue with us is nothing but criticism and negative self-talk. For much of the time, the inner critic is unconscious. This video shows you how to reveal your inner critic and takes you through a 4-step process to stop him/her from putting you down.

When we ignore our shadow – all the stuff we’re repressing or denying – then this puts your unconscious shadow in the driving seat. This video explores the concept of our shadow, and how we can build healthier self esteem through self acceptance – how we can learn to live and accept the parts of us that we dislike or that embarrass us.

Many people worry that looking after themselves is somehow self indulgent and selfish – other people should always come first. This video explores how to look after others we must first look after ourselves. We explore what good self care looks like. We finish with the importance of taking meaningful action to improve self esteem and self confidence, and we leave you with a list of our top tips for building greater self esteem.